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elan_vital
Apr 13th, 2008, 02:52 PM
I guess it is very common to bring this issue up, but I'm going to anyway since it is my personal experience thats makes this truth irk me.

I live in NYC which is supposed to be one of the most open-minded places in America, I am not American born so I expect this country to not be as racist despite their history other countries are known to be worst.

Getting to the point, there are very few Asian males in my school that actually mingle with the student body, two mainly. Merlin and a kid named Dan, both of which people talk about very openly in front of and behind their backs. So I knew it was risky when me and the guy Merlin began to develop a relationship beyond the casual hallway chat, and kiss on the cheek.

Once it became obvious to myself, and obvious to him that we were becoming more than friends we both kind of backed off, but I felt the need to express my liking for him to a friend. The one friend whom I thought would be the least ignorant and give me the least ignorant response, and I didn't hesitate in letting her know that was the reason I chose to tell her.

Prior to me telling her how much I liked him, and how much he liked me. I told her I knew a lot of people would have a lot of negative things to say if we took it a step further, and that was why I was avoiding him most of the time. For his sake, not mine.

This is where I get pissed, her response to this whole thing, issues explained and all;

"Oh thats cute, but Ashley you're a beautiful girl. You need to find yourself a nice white guy."

Now she's Italian, it baffles me why the females of America seriously think a white male is better than say an Asian male, or even an Arabian male. While white is the majority, if you look at the success rate based on intellect and hard work and push aside race. The Asian male and the Arabian male would be first choice hands down. It is not only the white female, black female, arabian female, but even the asian female feels this way.

It pisses me off, and this is where my rant ends.

SamuraiJack
Apr 13th, 2008, 04:28 PM
Hey at least she said it explicitly so you know her views and measure it for what it's worth. Most times, it's hidden under other excuses, such as looks, personality, or just a "feeling"... any reason...

It's also an insult to yourself, since it seems she never mentioned "black male".

Anyways, just curious, how did you respond?

Ike
Apr 13th, 2008, 06:38 PM
Merlin is a rockin' name. Go for it!

elan_vital
Apr 13th, 2008, 11:29 PM
Hey at least she said it explicitly so you know her views and measure it for what it's worth. Most times, it's hidden under other excuses, such as looks, personality, or just a "feeling"... any reason...

It's also an insult to yourself, since it seems she never mentioned "black male".

Anyways, just curious, how did you respond?

I am a very evasive person, I choose to avoid most confrontation but I will not look at her the same. I did tell her that was one of the most ignorant things I've heard in a long time. But honestly, I'm sure it didn't mean shit to her. She still thinks I should find a nice white guy.

I would think she wouldn't refer me to a black guy because I am a very quiet person, and most of the black males in my school are loud and "ghetto" she knows that. Now that you mention it though, I guess it was in a way biased against myself too she wouldn't say black or something along those lines.

But what can you do? :(

elan_vital
Apr 13th, 2008, 11:29 PM
Merlin is a rockin' name. Go for it!

That plus he's friggin' hot. Still I don't know. :D I like him a lot though.

nightshade
Apr 14th, 2008, 12:43 AM
Go for the hot boy. Do it!

Pat the Great
Apr 14th, 2008, 01:56 AM
a wise man once said,

"this thread is worthless without pics".

evil_FUX
Apr 14th, 2008, 04:02 AM
I foresee a, "I put on my robe and wizard hat..."

elan_vital
Apr 14th, 2008, 07:42 PM
I foresee a, "I put on my robe and wizard hat..."

" I steal yo soul and cast Lightning Lvl. 1,000,000 Your body explodes into a fine bloody mist, because you are only a Lvl. 2 Druid. "

elan_vital
Apr 14th, 2008, 07:49 PM
a wise man once said,

"this thread is worthless without pics".

Him. Kind of a loser pic, but the only one I haaaave;
http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y40/x__rebellious/l_2ee183c21b81e6de54215d82f3c96ddc.jpg

She's the one on top;
http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y40/x__rebellious/l_e116472d97658ad4fd48bcee925d7e77.jpg

& me, just for the hell of it;
http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y40/x__rebellious/l_2685f0bf428b076125992d624cfc4a-1.jpg

Pat the Great
Apr 14th, 2008, 11:11 PM
i approve of the boy's hair.

Heyyu
Apr 15th, 2008, 05:25 AM
Bleh, who cares what other people say. Go for it.

elan_vital
Apr 15th, 2008, 05:46 PM
Bleh, who cares what other people say. Go for it.

:D i think i will.

luckythirteen
Apr 15th, 2008, 07:24 PM
You are in high school so the words of your peers probably mean a lot to you. Just realize that as you get older, the opinions of others will mean less and less and you'll just do whatever you damn please. I say definitely go for it. I've been dating a black girl for a year now. Interracial relationships are great. You really learn to communicate when you can't fall back on things you take for granted when dating someone of your own race. And usually those assumptions are misguided because how a person looks really has nothing to do with what he believes in. I've dated plenty of Asian girls who immediately became very familiar with me when they have no idea what I am like. They will always infer from their own backgrounds that I am just like them just because I am Asian.

Le Sheng Liu
Apr 24th, 2008, 06:07 PM
Yeah before Elan Vital identified her own ethnicity, it was hard to understand this thread fully. Anyway don't worry about what others think of you two. If you gotta do it in resistance to everyone else, that just makes the sex that much hotter hahaha!!!