Post boot camp APB update

[kwak76]

It's been six months since I took the boot camp. I learned allot about myself through out the process and I also learned allot about human nature. Sometimes I wish I took the blue pill and stayed ignorant.

I think I understand why guys who are in the pick up community always stress the fact go after more than one girl . Allot of it has to do with the fact it's little bit of a numbers game and only going after one girl is like only investing in one stock.

Women picks the guy who knows how to present himself the best way. If your approach is off by one bit or you come out incongruent you lose. Sure guys may make the first approach but it is the girls who sit passively picking and choosing who they want to pair up with.

I think I understand why guys go after more than one girl. It's because if I like only that one girl and go after her. There is always the chance that she may not like me. Even if my approach was good they maybe something about me she is not attracted to.

This happened to me a few times. I see a girl I like. I approach her and ask her out. She gives me a number. I'm happy thinking it's on. Go home give her a call but she gives me 100 reason why she can't come out. I get the picture, she is not interested.

In the pick up community they tell ,me why only one number? Go after a few girls every day, and out of those girls someone will stick and you will get better at reading women.

The reason why some pick up guys always cheat on girls or have different girl friends is because a part of it is the fear that one girl will leave him . Another reason is that when you first start out in approaching girls you will get allot of rejection and allot of game played BY GIRLS. So when you do get good at this you want to bed with as many girls possible.

It's like all that rejection builds up this negative experience . You have to detach your emotion. In other words do NOT GET EMOTIONAL CONNECTED WITH any of these girls. Because if they reject you . You will not get hurt but go after another girl.

However, the problem is being emotional detach even if I meet a girl I like I am not emotional invested. I go through the PUA routines get the girl invested in me. As long as she is invested in me I'm fine.

That is where I am right now. I'm still trying to figure things out. I do see a pattern among women and starting to see what they react to. One thing I do know is that women PLAY THE GAME with out even knowing it. Women can be worst than men.

I still support pick up because I am better prepared but what I don't like is that I feel corrupted. What I mean is I used have this innocent belief that if you love someone or cared about someone that some one will care about you.

I realize it doesn't work like that. It is selfish on my part to love that person because I feel good but it has no effect on that other person.

What I realize is that everyone is selfish. What ever is the girls selfish desire I have to full fill that. If I could full fill that girl selfish interest that is how I get that girl. That's why I wish I took the blue pill.

[evil_FUX]

I'll never ever regret taking the red pill.

[SamuraiJack]

This whole web site is about taking the red pill.

[xian]

Well, you might consider that you are hitting a scene that has a higher proportion of selfish people. It's not too hard to find more selfless folk to hang out with, but you have to pick the right setting.

[cattygurl]

I think if you're wanting nothing more than a fling, sure- it's best not to get attached. However, it's important to realize that if you want a relationship of any kind, casual, serious, friendship only, etc- it comes with risks. It hurts as bad to be rejected by a good friend, for example. It really depends on what you're looking to accomplish. These workshops may help you get comfortable with approaching people, but even if you're looking for a friends with benefits or a fling, it's fundamentally better in any case if you're both mutually comfortable with each other, enjoy mutual company aside from just sex, and there's basic respect on both sides.

People talk about gaming, and sure, both genders play it- but there are also people that are just interested in something more straightforward, even if they're not interested in something serious.

The key to a happy relationship-casual or serious, is that you're both on the same page, and that's hard to do if you're both acting out of fear or playing mind games- because that basically means you're likely to be dishonest with each other.

To a degree, everything is a numbers game. Looking for a job is a numbers game. Looking for a home. Looking for a pair of fucking jeans can be a numbers game. Options are always good things. You end up more successful when you focus on the quality of the numbers you're hitting and learning to thin out the options that won't work before getting involved, rather than just focusing on the numbers and extending yourself randomly out of fear.

Go out and have fun, but at the end of the day, if you're finding that your fears (getting cheated on, taken advantage of, feeling corrupted) are increasing, then you're doing something wrong and you need to change something somewhere.

What I mean is I used have this innocent belief that if you love someone or cared about someone that some one will care about you.


I just came out of a 5 year relationship that I figured at one point would last me in the decades to come. No dice. People change, priorities change, etc. Things happen. If caring about someone was all that was required in a relationship, then you'd see far, far less divorces and breakups. Breakups are unfortunately something most people will deal with repeatedly in this day and age.

I've rarely seen people regret casual relationships where both parties respected each other. On the other hand, most of the anger/bitterness/ bitching and moaning regarding hookups came from people that were wasting time on ppl they had no regard for.