Online Dating Services....

[Le Sheng Liu]

Who has tried it and what have your xxxperiences been? I've heard mostly horror stories but also know a few people who have gotten serious, monogamous relationships out of it. I used to be against the idea cuz of all the freaks out there on the web, but slowly I met more and more people online, including this website where I met Cattygurl who became such an important friend to me, and so now I am more open to the internet as a source of partners.

My other question is do you think for whatever reason that Asian guys are disadvantaged in the world of internet dating? A few of my buddies have xxxpressed that and I don't really believe it, but a second opinion would help.

[Ike]

Hey, what happened to Cattygurl anyway?

[Synthetic]

Hey, what happened to Cattygurl anyway?

i think she said she was too busy with other things in her life to continue being a participator on the board. she was cool, too.

[nightshade]

Who has tried it and what have your xxxperiences been? I've heard mostly horror stories but also know a few people who have gotten serious, monogamous relationships out of it. I used to be against the idea cuz of all the freaks out there on the web, but slowly I met more and more people online, including this website where I met Cattygurl who became such an important friend to me, and so now I am more open to the internet as a source of partners.

My other question is do you think for whatever reason that Asian guys are disadvantaged in the world of internet dating? A few of my buddies have xxxpressed that and I don't really believe it, but a second opinion would help.

You might just get xxxasperated.

[JadeDragon]

I used to be against the idea cuz of all the freaks out there on the web, but slowly I met more and more people online, including this website where I met Cattygurl who became such an important friend to me, and so now I am more open to the internet as a source of partners.

Dude, I TOLD D that we could branch out into offering dating services, but the salmon-sweater boy said "Noooooo...". Grrrr...

Gotta give him a spanking tonight.

[kwak76]

It doesn't hurt to try it. The only disadvantage with online dating is you don't really know for sure who the other person is on the other side. The advantage with online dating is you get to chat or e-mail with people from different countries so it can be interesting.

[Le Sheng Liu]

Dude, I TOLD D that we could branch out into offering dating services

That would be cool. It would turn this site into a soap opera/Jerry Springer show!!!

[Synthetic]

...not to mention that 1 out of 3 women who meet men online end up having sex with the man the first night and a third of those women do it without a condom! i guess the "x number of dates first" includes late night AIM chats!!!!

i smell a return of the almighty syphilis.

[nskripchun]

...not to mention that 1 out of 3 women who meet men online end up having sex with the man the first night and a third of those women do it without a condom! i guess the "x number of dates first" includes late night AIM chats!!!!

i smell a return of the almighty syphilis.

Where's this stat from, eh?

If people who meet online are more likely to have sex with they meet in "real life", I guess I better start avoid meeting up with dudes.

haha.

[Synthetic]

Where's this stat from, eh?

If people who meet online are more likely to have sex with they meet in "real life", I guess I better start avoid meeting up with dudes.

haha.

http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,22743688-1702,00.html

i was wrong. 75% don't use a condom...haha.

[angi]

A lot of men use internet dating strictly for sex, it's kind of an unwritten rule, IMO. So if you are a man, be prepared to meet women who are also only looking for that. I am saying it is a bad thing, but if you are looking for something meaningful joining meetup.com might be a better option.

You also have to keep in mind that you're missing an entire 3D element of the person. You don't have the voice, gestures, smell, attitude, etc in a picture and cheesy profile. So you might have great emails and meet in person and have no spark. It's really a crap shoot because it is superficial.

Essentially, I think it is garbage, but if you're careful and don't take it seriously, it can be another tool to meet people. Who knows? You might meet someone spectacular.

[Le Sheng Liu]

Well this is an interesting discussion cuz I seem to have better luck with strangers on the internet than I do with girls I've known in real-life for some time. It's weird. I always thought of scoring a date as something that developed from being friends first, not from some chick IMing me outta nowhere and then me responding with, "Your pic is hot. Wanna go out with me tonight?"

[Lum]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. From what I understand the stigma of online dating is pretty much gone anyway.

If you're curious then try it out, I say.

[DONKEY]

it's never worked out for me. very few women in those things seem interesting. plus i automatically think people are trying to hide something when they do this. why can't they just date somebody they know in person?

[RebelAzn]

I got a friend who got married meeting her husband online. Then again, I got another AF friend who has been trying to do online dating for 7 years looking for a good AM and she has yet to find one. She is not bad looking at all and she is educated. In addition, she really is not that picky.

I think it is case by case basis. Online dating is just like everything else. Once you meet the person, what difference does it make? I think no one knows if there is attraction until they actually meet. People lie online all the time. Now with video cam, perhaps people can see each other before they meet vs. 10 years old pictures.

[lycheng]

Add another data point for a successful online dating matchup. I met my fiancee through and online dating service. We are planning our wedding for Fall of next year.

[RebelAzn]

Add another data point for a successful online dating matchup. I met my fiancee through and online dating service. We are planning our wedding for Fall of next year.

Congrats. Like I said, regardless how you met the person, you still have to go through the normal dating pattern to find out if you are compatible or not. It is not anything magic. It is still two human beings try to find common ground.

[Dirac]

Congratulations lycheng! I personally know two examples of people who met their wife/husband online, and another friend who met his longterm girlfriend that way. In all these cases, though, they had to go on a lot of bad dates before they met someone they clicked with.

I think whatever you do to increase the number of people you meet is going to improve your chances of finding someone.

[27727746]

The overwhelming majority of bad experiences I've heard about fall into two categories. 1) People who met up with someone they met in a chat room. 2)People who were involved in online dating during the early days after it's inception. Is it a crap shoot to meet people through chat rooms? Yes. Were online dating sites initially plagued with problems? Yes, but sites like Match and the Yahoo Personals have become highly evolved and are radically different from the early days just after their creation. While I have never tried to meet any females through a chat room, I have had a good deal of success through online dating. In spite of the fact that I am not good looking (and not just by European standards). The stigma surrounding online dating is waning and it is becoming more and more mainstream everyday. I've met two groups of people who are critical of it. 1) People who have never tried it and are repeating second and thirdhand information. 2) People with unrealistic expectations who tried it and ended up being disappointed when their expectations weren't met. Some examples of these unrealistic expectations include. 1) Thinking that all you have to do is put up a profile and the emails are going to come pouring in. 2) People who are 3's, 4's, and 5's only pursuing 9's and 10's. If you can't pull a 9 or a 10 in the real world what makes you think online is any different? 3) People who can't find anyone in the real world who are surprised that they can't meet anyone online. You need to look inward. Nobody said online dating is some miracle cure-all. It can be very hard work but you will be rewarded if you persevere.