lycheng
Jul 20th, 2007, 02:58 PM
As some of you know, I’m one of the older guys here. Since I’m no longer in the dating pool, I think I have a different perspective on the whole dating scene. Actually, it wasn’t that long ago that I was swimming in the deep end of the dating pool. What I found was that it’s a different experience dating in your 20’s and dating in your 30’s or even your 40’s. For men, age actually makes them more attractive,
After comparing notes with my single older women colleagues, I found that despite decades of feminism, there’s still much room for improvement.
1. Many women find older men more attractive.
Yes, the old adage that older men are seen as “mature”, while older women are “old maids” still exist. Sure the younger man/older women parings are growing, but they are a drop in the bucket when compared to older men/ younger women parings.
Somehow society will forgive a man who gained a few inches around the waist. For Older women, society tells them that have to diet and workout to keep their figure. If you don’t believe me, just do a search on the online dating sites for older women. You’ll see a high percentage of them mention that they "work out three or four times a week" in their profile. Do you think all those women are doing that?
How about lines and wrinkles? On guys, they give them character. On women? No comparison there.
How about the so called “MILF” thing? Those MILF women all look like they are 10 if not 20 years younger. They have to have Botox and cosmetic surgery just to maintain their level of desirability.
2. Having a stable and successful career is a desirable trait.
A successful career means steady income and wealth. I don’t’ think I’m generalizing when I say all women love to have their men bring in the dough. It’s a fact that income can compensate for physical attractiveness. And with older men, there’s a multiplying affect going on. Older men, who are already viewed as desirable, mature guys, also tend to have higher income, which further increases their desirability index.
3. Owning a home is a desirable trait.
With income comes the ability to buy a home. This only adds to the desirability index. If you don’t believe me, think about this simple scenario. A younger woman is dating two guys. One guy is a renter and the other guy is a homeowner. She drives to visit her boyfriend. At the renter boyfriends place, she probably has to find a parking spot. If she’s lucky, the renter boyfriend has a visitors spot. If she’s unlucky, she’ll have to find parking on the street. At the homeowner boyfriends house, she probably parks in his two car garage or his drive way. She might not mind parking on the street, but I’ll bet she prefers parking in a garage.
Which population of guys tends to own their own homes? Yep, older guys.
I didn’t even mention that houses tend to have bigger bedrooms, bigger kitchens, and room for expansion. If you don’t think women care about these things – well think again.
So have patience guys – if you can’t find a date in your twenties, just wait a while. You’re desirability factor will surly increase. Can you say the same for your female friends?
After comparing notes with my single older women colleagues, I found that despite decades of feminism, there’s still much room for improvement.
1. Many women find older men more attractive.
Yes, the old adage that older men are seen as “mature”, while older women are “old maids” still exist. Sure the younger man/older women parings are growing, but they are a drop in the bucket when compared to older men/ younger women parings.
Somehow society will forgive a man who gained a few inches around the waist. For Older women, society tells them that have to diet and workout to keep their figure. If you don’t believe me, just do a search on the online dating sites for older women. You’ll see a high percentage of them mention that they "work out three or four times a week" in their profile. Do you think all those women are doing that?
How about lines and wrinkles? On guys, they give them character. On women? No comparison there.
How about the so called “MILF” thing? Those MILF women all look like they are 10 if not 20 years younger. They have to have Botox and cosmetic surgery just to maintain their level of desirability.
2. Having a stable and successful career is a desirable trait.
A successful career means steady income and wealth. I don’t’ think I’m generalizing when I say all women love to have their men bring in the dough. It’s a fact that income can compensate for physical attractiveness. And with older men, there’s a multiplying affect going on. Older men, who are already viewed as desirable, mature guys, also tend to have higher income, which further increases their desirability index.
3. Owning a home is a desirable trait.
With income comes the ability to buy a home. This only adds to the desirability index. If you don’t believe me, think about this simple scenario. A younger woman is dating two guys. One guy is a renter and the other guy is a homeowner. She drives to visit her boyfriend. At the renter boyfriends place, she probably has to find a parking spot. If she’s lucky, the renter boyfriend has a visitors spot. If she’s unlucky, she’ll have to find parking on the street. At the homeowner boyfriends house, she probably parks in his two car garage or his drive way. She might not mind parking on the street, but I’ll bet she prefers parking in a garage.
Which population of guys tends to own their own homes? Yep, older guys.
I didn’t even mention that houses tend to have bigger bedrooms, bigger kitchens, and room for expansion. If you don’t think women care about these things – well think again.
So have patience guys – if you can’t find a date in your twenties, just wait a while. You’re desirability factor will surly increase. Can you say the same for your female friends?