Height a #1 concern?

[Vahz]

Question for people that might have talked about this issue.

How often do you think Asian women look at your height as the deciding factor on whether or not to date you? I'm currently a short 5'7" and someone was telling me that even girls who are 5'2" and 5'3" were looking for guys that were 5'10". His own personal story was that a Korean girl who was 5' wouldn't date anyone under 5'10"

How much has your height actually influenced your ability to attract others? Or is this shallowness, sorry, preference, really present?

Just wondering because I got on this topic with others because this hot white girl who was at least 4 inches taller (without heels) than me came over and started chatting with me out of nowhere. The girl was an Amazon and I think she may have had an Asian fetish being that she kept talking about how many Asians were in her home town, what Asian culture classes she was taking in college, and how she wants to learn Chinese or Korean.

It was funny because all the white guys were staring at us. A hot white girl that was 4 inches taller talking to an Asian guy.

[theme]

Is this a serious question or did you just want to use that story about the White girl?

[Vahz]

Serious question. I used that story because I find some rare women don't seem to care about height and wanted to see if it factors that much into their decisions.

I must also add that I'm not really all that interested in white women anymore. Asian women all the way.

[wuwei]

Asian girls are much more concerned about height than white or black girls.

Fortunately, thanks to my Manchurian genes, I stand at 183cm (6'1), and it's rare to see a girl of any race same height or taller than me.

[theme]

Serious question. I used that story because I find some rare women don't seem to care about height and wanted to see if it factors that much into their decisions.

I must also add that I'm not really all that interested in white women anymore. Asian women all the way.

So a white girl wouldn't talk to you unless she is an Asiaphile?

That's pretty stupid.

[Ike]

A lot of girls I know have the "I must not be taller than him when I'm in heels" mentality.

I think I would date a guy who's shorter than me, but I'm 5'0", so that would be tough. Bring on the midgets!

[Vahz]

So a white girl wouldn't talk to you unless she is an Asiaphile?

That's pretty stupid.

No, it's because of all the topics she brought up.

[theme]

that makes so much more sense. thanks.

[RebelAzn]

From my experience short girls tend to want to date taller guys. Taller girls are more open to date shorter guys. Women in general still prefer to date guys who are taller than they are.

I am a little above average height for Americans so I never had to deal with this much since I am probably taller than 95% of the women out there. That being said, I did meet a girl who is like 5 feet tall but she told me she would like to date guys who are at least 6 feet tall. I thought that was weird because I missed the mark a little and I thought she would be a little too small for me.

I think it is part of the natural selection of things for short girls to want to date taller guys is because they want their kids to be taller. This happens in the animal kingdom too where females tend to pick the strongest males to mate to ensure greatest chance of survival. Of course, we are humans so we are suppose to be above that but we are still mammals.

I personally prefer girls around 5'4" to 5'7" range since it is easier for me to kiss them when they are in heels.

[RebelAzn]

Is this a serious question or did you just want to use that story about the White girl?

Why do you always do this? Anyone can start a thread for any reason. If you don't like it then don't post on the thread. As usual, you contribute nothing other than your dumb ass remarks.

[DryInk]

I recently read in Psychology Today that girls may date guys who are taller or seem more masculine but usually when it comes to marriage they marry "shorter" guys or guys whos features arent that "ridgid"/ "masculine features" [meaning softer feartures] because sub-consciously it seems like they would make better life partners. So dont worry, you may have more chance of finding a girl then those guys in the gym.


Besides, I know quite a bit of girls who oly want a guy who is taller then them. And seeing how alot of the girls I know are 4'11'' to 5'7'' it shouldnt be hard to find a short girl who'll fall for you despite height.

[LaiSteve66]

I'm six feet tall so height isn't a problem for me.

[Anansasem]

I'm well over six feet, which is actually a reverse problem for me. When you add the size to my 'black' appearance people tend to be intimidated. What makes it worse, is that I'm not the type who enjoys intimating others and I get tired of having to shrink and make myself appear less overbearing.

People overreact when I display even the slightest emotion and tend to avoid coming near me when they can. It's irritating as hell.

I can understand the issues with being too short in dating, though not many girls want to feel like they're walking under an overhanging cliff either. My height preference for girls is 5'7'' to 6'1,'' though I've gone with one as short as 5'2.''

To answer the topic, I don't think it is the #1 concern unless it is significant. There's a 5' Tibetan kid who I see around with a brunette white girl who's 5'7.'' Not that they don't get stares, but the kid just has a lot of personality.

[Tyger Durden]

Don't worry guys, I think ongoing genetic research will soon prove one day that all Males are 5' 10" despite any visual differences.

Be patient.

[RebelAzn]

As I mentioned in the past, I have a Chinese Canadian friend who is like 5'7" and he would always get the ladies. The way he talked somehow some chick always fall for him. Now that he is married, I hope he does not turn on his game whenever temptation presents itself.

Anyway, that being said, height certainly helps. However, anyone over 6'2" can be considered too tall and some people might not like that. I am sure 7'10" Sun Ming Ming the basketball player don't have girls hang all over him. It is a lot more than just height. People who said looks don't matter are kidding themselves. Women care about looks period. If you are ugly, you just have to work harder or bring something else to the table. I noticed many men in general like to use every excuse in the book why they don't get girls. Many Asian men point to race as one of the factors. Like everything in life, there is a balance. You always gonna find some females that like one thing but others don't. All women are different just like men.

At end of the day, you can only control things that you can change. You are not going to change your height, your looks (although some have tried) or your race. However, you can always improve your personality, your career and other things women might find attractive.

Personally, I have dated women from 5'0" to 5'10", so it all depends whether you like a girl or not. If a girl is hot, I sure aren't gonna turn her away if she is 4'11" tall.

[DONKEY]

men probably think about men's height more than women do.
i never really heard too many women state a strong preference with height. weight seems to be more important.
being over six ft can work against a guy sometimes if he is a stranger in a new place and trying to make new friends, especially if he already look different in other ways. i think it may have worked against me before in job interviews for positions that required some thinking and logistics skills. i felt i was qualified for the job and had some experience in it before. i knew the person who got the job quite well, she had no experience and wasnt very reliable. they ended up firing her after a year, it didnt make me happy. by that time i had already found something else of course but i was still kind of bitter about it. maybe im wrong and it had nothing to do with my physics. but sometimes i get the feeling that people look at me and think that im OK for manual tasks but they will give a thinking task to a smaller person. i dont mind the manual tasks but if im hired for a thinking job its not really fair that every single manual task gets thrown to me just because im the largest one.

[wuwei]

I'm well over six feet, which is actually a reverse problem for me. When you add the size to my 'black' appearance people tend to be intimidated. What makes it worse, is that I'm not the type who enjoys intimating others and I get tired of having to shrink and make myself appear less overbearing.

People overreact when I display even the slightest emotion and tend to avoid coming near me when they can. It's irritating as hell.

I can understand the issues with being too short in dating, though not many girls want to feel like they're walking under an overhanging cliff either. My height preference for girls is 5'7'' to 6'1,'' though I've gone with one as short as 5'2.''

To answer the topic, I don't think it is the #1 concern unless it is significant. There's a 5' Tibetan kid who I see around with a brunette white girl who's 5'7.'' Not that they don't get stares, but the kid just has a lot of personality.

I've punched black dudes bigger than me in the face before. I know it's not anything to be bragging about, but I bet not too many pussy ABCs can claim the same.

[Anansasem]

I've punched black dudes bigger than me in the face before. I know it's not anything to be bragging about, but I bet not too many pussy ABCs can claim the same.
I'm sorry, what are you talking about? The hell is an ABC? I'm guessing it has to do with with Asian Americans. By the way, growing up with the Hmong I've been punched in the face by dozens of Asian boys and girls all but two smaller than I am. You're not exactly the only one who's bashed a big bad black. There's a BBB for you.

[silkie]

Dude, I know Anansasem has his moments on this site, but on the other hand WHAT THE FUCK is up with the recent rash of anti-black sentiment around here?

As minorities, we Asians should know better than to resort to race bashing.

[RebelAzn]

As minorities, we Asians should know better than to resort to race bashing.

Yep. It is stupid. What's up with some these guys? Seriously, we should work together with the black people. I know it is painful sometimes to bring out the full truth, but we should try to be civil. Most of the people posting on this site are reasonable so there is no point bashing left and right.

As for big dudes, I still remember the incident when a 6'5" 275 lb big black guy challenged my martial art teacher to a fight cause he thought he was a bad ass. My teacher was just a regular sized man. My teacher just told the guy if he can punch him in the stomach and make him move, he will admit defeat. Anyway, the guy winded up and punched him in the stomach and broke his hand, the teacher did not even move. Therefore, it is not always the physical size that will win in anything. I always learned it only takes 1 ounce of strength to move 1,000 pounds of force. If a guy is charging you and he is huge, you can easily direct his force to the side vs. take him head-on.

[Makulita]

Well yeah oooooooobviously, oopslol Aikido snobbery peeking through.

5'2" and as far as attraction goes I had a crush on a dude shorter than me but evidently I'm not his type or something. Fucker.

Relationship-wise, I would want a dude a bit taller than me. Enough so all I'd really have to do is crane my face up while he tilts his face down in order to get some smoochies. Anything taller than that is just awkward to me. Also because I can get romantic'n shit too and I'd want someone I can look up into their eyes and all that other mushy crap.

And there is a sense of "protection" when you date a taller dude, because even bitches like me get tired of stirrin' up shit and smackin' people around and want someone to do or at least offer to do it for us.

[theme]

Why do you always do this? Anyone can start a thread for any reason. If you don't like it then don't post on the thread. As usual, you contribute nothing other than your dumb ass remarks.

Can't help it. I'm a bullshit detector on autopilot.

[averagejoette]

Personally I wouldn't want to date someone a lot shorter then me. I'm about 5'1, so shorter then me would definitely be pretty short. 5'0 is ok, but I have been attracted to tall guys on many occasions, but too tall is also an issue. I once liked a guy who was 6'1. We looked ridiculous even standing next to each other (and he didn't have much of a personality).
If a guy was an ideal height for me and had no personality or a bad one, theres no chance. If a guy was shorter than me (not a lot shorter) but had an awsome personality then it would be better than a tall guy. I don't think I could restrict my preferences to height.
On my list of concerns it would probably rank as #3.

As for punching a big black guy...I haven't, because all the ones I've met have been nice to me. It would be rude to punch then in the face. I have punched a few white guys and asian guys in the face, and I use to smack around a mexican guy for fun. I think ABC means American Born Chinese?

[Anansasem]

As for punching a big black guy...I haven't, because all the ones I've met have been nice to me. It would be rude to punch then in the face. I have punched a few white guys and asian guys in the face, and I use to smack around a mexican guy for fun. I think ABC means American Born Chinese?
HAHAHA, girl you're killing me. Haha, I'm loving this.

[Short Asian Guy]

Well I'm a 5'3 guy so yeah... let's just say I didn't win the gene lotto.

My advice though is just be yourself, let your own personality and charisma shine through, and don't worry about it too much. I mean, there's really nothing you can do about your height.

I mean, I didn't date at all throughout high school cause I assumed women wouldn't date me cause of my short height (that and some of the snide remarks I'd received... yeah, high school can be cruel).

Once I got to college though I started coming out of my shell. I mean, I've even had taller women interested in me when I wasn't expecting it. And yes, I have noticed that shorter women seem to really prefer taller guys for some reason. Probably the opposites attract thing or overcompensating on their part? I remember asking out this Asian girl I liked in high school who was a little shorter than me but she rejected me saying I was too short for her.

Just keep positive though. Be confident and if you don't care about your height and not let it get to you, then others won't care either. Oh yeah, don't try to overcompensate for your height by acting super-macho or something. It comes off as fake and girls can see right through it.

Although one thing I don't get is this women need taller guys to protect them excuse. I've heard that a lot and ok, that was true back in the caveman days. But there's not sabertooth tigers attacking our children anymore. And besides, Bruce Lee was only 5'7 and could kick anyone's ass!

[Le Sheng Liu]

I've only dated once and she was like an inch or two taller than me. Outside of that I've fooled around or had chemistry with other girls and almost all of them were taller than me. None of them were Asian though, not sure if that matters. I am 5"2 by the way so I don't really wanna hear any of you guys complaining about your height. You can't beat my shortness!!!!!

[LowFrequency]

wtf, 5 7 is short?

[howstrange]

^

nah, that's about average. For some reason, it's always black and white, short and tall.. no in between.

[Vahz]

Many people have been telling me that I'm just looking too much into it and rationalized that 5'7" is fine considering the average height for women in America was 5'4". I guess it's a question that's been weighing on my mind since I hang out with many people who are 5'10" plus.

I was just wondering what the common concensus was.

While I try to refrain from stereotyping as much as possible, I heard that Asian girls tend to be more concerned with whole height issue more than any other type of woman.

Like I brought up the case of Jenny, the white girl that was 3 inches taller than me, non-Asian girls (which is why I mentioned Jenny's race as white) don't seem to have this hang up on height. I've dated two white girls who were 1 inch taller than me and that's without heels. With my boots and their heels, they would "tower" over me by 3-4 inches. Sure, people looked from time to time but they [girls] didn't care.

Some Asian guys I've known have encountered Asian girls who were around 5'2" and said they don't date anyone unless they're 6' plus. They've said was a uniquely Asian female trait which makes me wonder if some Asian women are trying to overcompensate for the "short" stereotype.

[Ike]

Nah, I know this white girl who is like 5'0" and dates a guy who is 6'4". It's a short girl thing.

[Vahz]

I know those types of couples exist but was she overly concerned with how tall he was like many Asian girls are?

[theme]

Vahz, like many people have said. It's not an Asian girl thing. There's no rule in the book that says short Asian girls must date average height guys. Perhaps you think it's an Asian girl thing because they are petite themselves and YOU think therefore they should only date short guys.

It's like saying girls who belong to lower middle class households should only date lower middle class guys. And if they don't then suddenly you think that only lower middle class girls tend to date higher class guys. That's not true.

Every girl wants taller guys. The taller the better.

[Ike]

I know those types of couples exist but was she overly concerned with how tall he was like many Asian girls are?
Well she sure makes a big deal about his height. And I really doubt that "many" Asian girls are overly concerned about guys' heights. Some, sure, but the only height requirement any of my AF friends have is that the guy be taller than the girl.

Every girl wants taller guys. The taller the better.
Not true, theme. I'm pretty short, and if I had to pick a *preferred* height for my guy, it would be ~5'5" so he's taller than me when I'm in heels but can still be kissed when I'm in flats. That being said, height is pretty low on my list of factors that matter in dating, and besides, people like me need to take what they can get. =P

[theme]

Well she sure makes a big deal about his height. And I really doubt that "many" Asian girls are overly concerned about guys' heights. Some, sure, but the only height requirement any of my AF friends have is that the guy be taller than the girl.


Not true, theme. I'm pretty short, and if I had to pick a *preferred* height for my guy, it would be ~5'5" so he's taller than me when I'm in heels but can still be kissed when I'm in flats. That being said, height is pretty low on my list of factors that matter in dating, and besides, people like me need to take what they can get. =P

Obviously I didn't mean that to be the absolute truth. Most girls would rather date a guy who are at least several inches taller than them to make them feel petite and feminine and also so they don't feel awkward when they are in heels. I didn't mean that girls want to date a guy like Yao Ming or anything. It's the same thing about a guy's physique. Girls want a lean muscular guy but they don't want Ronnie Coleman.

My point is that height is definitely an issue for most women and that the fact that Asian women tend to fall on the petite end of the scale might only emphasize this fact even though they probably don't place any more importance on it than other women.

[RebelAzn]

I know those types of couples exist but was she overly concerned with how tall he was like many Asian girls are?

Vahz - I have known couple Asian women who are 5'7"+ and they dated guys shorter than they are. Like I said before, sometimes you will run into some really short girls who only want tall guys. These girls are that way because they probably grow up so conscious about their height so they go out of their way to overcompensate for it. I am sure it is the same for people who are either really really short or tall. I am pretty decent height for a guy, so I never really think about it. I am sure it is the case for most people if they are not the extremes.

Many Asian girls here have said height is not their #1 concern and I agree with them. If you got personality, I doubt it is that hard to get a chick at 5'7". If you really have issues, ask Asianplayboy cause he is only 5'6" I believe.

[little mixed girl]

it was said in the first page, but the basic thing that many girls look for is a guy who's going to be taller than they are when they wear heels.

if a person is really feeling bad about their height, move to japan. i see a number of shorter guy-taller girl couples.

[RebelAzn]

This question is the following questions:

1. Do Asian women like rich men?
2. Do Asian women like guys with muscles?
3. Do Asian women date xM type?
and on and on..

I am sure most of you get the point. There is no black and white answers to these. The answer is it all depends on the girl individually.

[DryInk]

Every girl wants taller guys. The taller the better.

Not true. I doubt girls look at height as the number one thing in a guy. There are girls who care about personality, not many (because they tend to be really shallow the younger they are). It does help if you are a bit taller or the same height then the girl (but whenever I ask my friends why they respond with "How are we gonna have sex if he's shorter?" or "It helps with the whole kissing thing"). Some girls refuse to date really tall guys for the same reason I mentioned before...not to mention that if she has a girl there’s a god chance she’s gonna be a beast (height wise).

[theme]

Not true. I doubt girls look at height as the number one thing in a guy. There are girls who care about personality, not many (because they tend to be really shallow the younger they are). It does help if you are a bit taller or the same height then the girl (but whenever I ask my friends why they respond with "How are we gonna have sex if he's shorter?" or "It helps with the whole kissing thing"). Some girls refuse to date really tall guys for the same reason I mentioned before...not to mention that if she has a girl there’s a god chance she’s gonna be a beast (height wise).

No. It is true. And what you've said here hasn't really negated that.

What kind of girl only cares about personality? Are there girls that would forgo ANYTHING as long as the guy has a great personality? I don't think so. So that statement alone is false.

[wuwei]

Just because I posted about punching a black dude, that's racist?

Srsly, black guys are the biggest ones and most people avoid fighting them, how is this racist?

If it helps, I've also punched Irish dudes, or Asian guys before, but they were pussies too.

[Ike]

Yes, but while we're at stereotyping, have you out-drunk Irish dudes or out-mathed Asian dudes?

[howstrange]

Perhaps height for women carries the same importance as weight for men.
Physical priorities


women.
1. Height
2. Face
3. Weight/figure

Men
1. Weight/figure
2. Face
3. Height

[Anansasem]

Not to sidetrack, though does anyone else notice that tall girls, of any 'race,' always seem to be the more demure ones in the group? Of course there are exceptions made even more apparent by their height, though I generally notice that unusually tall girls seem to be even shyer than the short ones.

I wonder if this is like the female counterpart of short men, and the perceptions of femininity.

[theme]

I don't really notice that, I'm sure there are 'demure' ones of course, but I also think many of them are trying to compensate for what is usually seen as a masculine feature. If you ever notice tall girls standing around shorter girls, they always hunch over as to not appear to stick out too much. It's just compensating for their stature in a way that is opposite to how smaller guys try to compensate by acting angrier/tougher a.k.a. napoleon complex.