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da Tao
Dec 20th, 2004, 11:17 PM
Oh and yo on a whole other note, I was talking to Lopan and briefly mentioned your attempts to enter the Ukraine. While I will not issue a blanket "what the fuck are you doing?" I am curious as to why you would pick this time to go.

For the benefit of providing context, the period of time in question was the weekend of Nov 26. It was shortly after the Ukrainian Presidental election was decried as a major fraud by international observers - ballot stuffing, intimidation, near or over 100% voter turnout rate in the Eastern regions who favours the pro-Russian candidate Yanukovych... (To be fair, some irregularities were also reported in the west pro-EU region in favour of the candidate Yushchenko).

A massive rally took place (and still is) taking place in Kiev and other western Ukrainian districts, and tension gripped the world both on the ground and in world capitals.

The reason why I am posting here is that perhaps it is time to get a fresh view of things and get some capital for my next move. I think this little story could be a telling microcosm.

So what the fuck was I doing?

This is the email I sent on that Friday at 4AM, while I was sitting in a dark room scanning my dead worms with a laser confocal microscope - getting more and more caught up with changes happening over in Kiev.

Subject: I need a good reason NOT to go to Kiev for 400 british pounds.

It is history in the making - it is either now - when even the pro-government media has turned - or read CNN and BBC for the entire week.

Of course, none of my insurance covers civil insurrections... but what the hey. Seriously, if you can think of a good reason - because I can't.

Decision will be made in 3 hrs.

And after 3hrs I made a rushed preparation for Ukraine. (This is quite a story in itself, but I will post this in the Travel thread instead.) Caught a train to Geneva, slept overnight at the station and bought my ticket over the counter. I got this email from one of my friends while I stopped over at the Amsterdam airport...

I just thought I'd be the voice of reason and say this is one of the
most idiotic things I've ever heard.

It's almost along the lines of those Canadians who go get themselves
arrested in China for protesting where they know it's not allowed to
and then expect to be bailed out and treated like "Canadians".

Just because your mother is not there to tell you not to do something
stupid, doesn't mean you have to act like a boy and go "oohh, riots,
chaos, DANGER, let's go!". For god sakes, any day now the new declared
"president" or whoever the hell he is might just bring in troops, and
THEN what are you going to do?

It's an unfamiliar country, you LOOK like a foreigner, you DON'T speak
the language. You will be there against the advice of your government
AND every other SENSIBLE person (god knows what the people HERE are
thinking).

Again, what the fuck are you thinking????

Ok, that email wasn't that relevant to the story but I thought it was funny. :lol:

This was my response: (There were others giving their input, which was equally funny... but again, maybe later.)

Dear friends,

I thank you all for your care and support - and I do seriously mean that - even K, whom said so in his own special 'tastefully' tasteless way.

I am where I said I am right now, it was touch and go for a while because I could not convince the first clerk to check me in without visa. (I am applying for an emergency visa in the Kiev airport.) So I went to another clerk and convince her that I can do that with a slip of paper that I claim to came from the Ukraine Consulate (instead it is from the Lonely Planet.)

L, you are right to some degree - and those are valid points that you brought up. And even AL, who can be considered one of the most worldly one among us, were skeptical.

It is a good chance to test my abilities, though the fact that I am going might indicate that I lack foresight and good sense. This whole thing reminded me of the model UN I did back in highschool... our delegation failed miseribly - the serbian delegration drove a hard case. I was told by our team lead that I was overconfident of my abilities (but my hand was tied to certain... tactics) - might as well.

If my hubris and myself cannot coexist together - might as well learn that lesson now - before I end up with wife and kids.

Thats it good luck to me!

The thing was that I didn't buy into that explaination completely. Part of the story was missing, and part of it was truth-stretching. (And part of it was that I was running out of credits at the cybercafe and so I had to be rough around the edges.)

There are two questions here: what the fuck was I doing, and why I would pick this time to go. The two interwine somewhat...

Why then? Short answer - It was history in the making. I don't want my European experience to be just muesums, parties, landmarks and hostels... One has to see the other side - sadness, suffering, struggles. Without which life, the human experience is not complete.

I wanted to see a pivotal moment in a people's history, and in geopolitics. Even if they don't speak English, you can see in people's eyes their hopes, fears and the where they are getting their strength to determine triumph and defeat.

I have never been to a national protest, and definitely not one that approach the scale of a revolution. The Ukrainian people, braving cold temperatures, surrounding government buildings in peaceful protests. Getting no more than 2 hrs of sleep a night in makeshift tent cities, eating from open air soup kitchens with their orange banners and hobo stove for warmth. Quite romantic.

It will be an unique experience amongst my peers... one that will be hard-matched. The pictures of the moment, the stories to be told...

On the other hand, this adventure is to affirm to myself that I have both the will and the ability to exercise my will - even in unfamiliar settings. That was to be a test of my wit and resourcefulness. Like I said above, I better be able to reconcile my delusions/ego with my assets before other people share in my liabilities.

And on this, I turn to safety. My assessment was that a violent confrontation was unlikely for the reason that NO ONE stands to benefit from one... given that:

- Expert opinion (I admit it is one talking head on CNN) said that the military and police are not in the mood to engage civilians.
- The risk of losing Western support if Yushchenko's camp advocate or commits violence. (He wish to bring Ukraine into the folds of EU and NATO)
- Putin's reluctance to be painted as a bad guy any more than he is. He gave his congrats to Yanukovych BEFORE the results are confirmed by the central election commission. And now in face of massive protest he can't be seen as TOO close to Yanukovych else he will lose face. Furthermore, any direct influence might actually cost Russian influence in its near aboard such as Georgia and Belarus.
- There are no reports of police or troops mobilization for an offensive.
- Television stations that used to support Yanukovych has on Friday renounced him and began a more even coverage of the election. (Yanukovych is the still the prime minister and exerted control on two major channels.) Since this is a very recent shift in tides, any unfair action to quash the demonstration will reflect extremely poorly on Yanukovych. (The supreme court has suspended the announcement of the result until allegations of fraud can be investigated.)
- The people's will to follow in the footsteps of the Rose Revolution.
- My gut said so.

The worse that could have happened to me was being mugged (unlikely if I made it to the protest spot) or held in custody (if the authorities wanted to extort money from me or just didn't like the way I looked).

So this security analysis provides few more reasons of why then... (it should be evident by now that most of my interests falls under the umbrella of statecraft - security, diplomacy, geopolitics, economics, development, etc...)

Because if shit does hit the fan... then this means:
1) I miscalculated and I deserve what I get as a lesson. "Live by the sword, die by the sword." I always say.
2) It is one of those extreme moments in history and I will belong to it and it to me.
3) It will be the greatest challenge I have faced, great chance will find out more about who I am and if I make it out all right then I have something (more) to validate my existence.

So to summarize... why I went. Because it works on so many levels - don't try to look for organization below cause you won't find it:
It is historic, human, humbling. I am not working on a career or doing gradschool and I have to valid my time off with life experiences that will make my peers envy me - because I envy them. I want an interesting life, I want to be able to tell stories to people, I like to be labeled as crazy every now and then.

Getting sidetracked a bit, it is also because I wanted to see Ukraine for itself, as the furthest east in europe as I have ever got, as part of the old Soviet Bloc... and as the origin of borsche soup and this food made out of pig fat. And even though the chance of picking up was small (the girls would definitely have more emotionaly kinship to protesting for the same cause - check out news articles on pregnancy test and marriages inside camp city) I was prepared for that possibility as well.

One way to categorize people is like this: Those who live by the goodwill of others, those that live by being useful to others (whether symbiotic or commensuralism) and those that claim their stake in the world and come unto their own. I think I am on the boundary between the first and the second - where I am given opportunities because I have some promise - but none that I converted into any system for the long term.

It was going to be an exciting adventure, a test to see if I can hack it. This is maybe what some would call the lust for life, or the will to power. Experience. I have a premonition that some aspects of life most people are familiar with will be denied to me by conscious choice or by external limitations - or maybe because those aspects involves one "to get lost in".

Have you thought about the sheer immensity of the human experience? What is it like to carry a child and give birth? What is it like to give your son to Bono so he can live? Or to pull life-support on your daughter on New Years day after your wife just died in the same car accident cause by your dozing relative? or to be a child soldier? What is it like to kill or be killed? I can be a Hutu husband forced by the militia to kill my Tutsi wife and in-laws. Or I can eat the livers of my enemies, or cut off the penis of my foe and stick it in their decapitated head as a mean to terrorize. What is it like to till the soil? Pick grapes under the gentle sun? Or sit in tranquility with your mate in your old age on a rocking bench on the porch behind a white picket fence, sipping on wine on a lazy afternoon in California?

I didn't mean to be excessively graphic, and I apologize to those who find it as such. But the thing is - I didn't make any of that up. That is real life for one of us human beings out there. And when I think of that, I realize that there a lot of things that doesn't really matter - and yet, I have to find a way into the same system to affect things that do matter.

To bring this to full circle and back into focus: I am concerned or I fear or I think that these adventures that I go on is a symptom of a larger issue... that it is a temporary measure to experience (other's?) life without building the capacity to sustain my own. Hence, I may need to take active steps to sort myself out. (Or put simply: getting a real life.)

This post is not meant to be conclusive, and as discussion goes on perhaps I will discover what the key issue is. I welcome any replies.

da Tao
Dec 20th, 2004, 11:37 PM
To those who are wondering... In the end, I was stopped at the boarding gate due to lack of a valid visa. I had this to say to my friends after my last email...

Hello everyone,

A final update before the next eventual email when I return to relative peace and quiet of Switzerland.

So I have failed to achieve my objective - a shame too - seeing how the Ukrainian parliament voted to reject the results. I admit this openly.

The "help me I am lost" ploy worked only up to a point. In the end during boarding I couldn't convince them that I can go without a visa already in my passport. She tried to check the system for me - and felt sorry that I couldn't go. It seems that at my skill level I can only breach queues at CERN and not established airport operations. And I suppose that is a good thing. Because if I could do it people should REALLY be worried about airport/border security.

It turns out to be an expensive ticket to Amsterdam, but I have no regrets. I have tried everything to asking another airline or hitting another airport (other than things that couldn't have possibly worked such as bribing, threatening or sneaking.) - I did get a free flight rearrangement and a complaint letter that might get me some goodies from KLM later on.

Though sadly, things here in the Netherlands is not all that peaceful lately. Sigh. Next weekend I go skiing in the Alps... and hence my compulsion to go this weekend rather than the next.

Hope life is treating you all well,

I was partly vindicated by the fact that NOTHING spectacular happened that weekend. No riots or overt dangers of any sort.

And two Fridays ago, I was signing up to be an election monitor for the re-vote on Dec 26th. Partly because I want to spend Christmas in europe, partly because I support free and fair election in Ukraine, partly thought that it would be cool to meet other observers for a private Christmas celebration (Ukrainians are dominantly Orthodox and hence celebrate their christmas on Jan 6th.) and yes, that includes single girls. But perhaps most important of all it is because of ego - I have siad that I will not be denied - so I must make up for my first failed attempt.

Alas, I think they botched up the paperwork because the lady acted like she never got my forms. I never got a formal acceptance or denial. But I knew my name wasn't in the Ukrainian Central Election Commission registry that was sent to every embassy and consulate...

Hence my original Christmas plan - Jerusalem and Bethlehem. I figured myself a pilgram... now if only those incompetent fucktards (I do mean this, they are holding up my flight!) at ebookers.com can just charge my non-UK credit card instead of playing email tag, I will be on my way.

B the student
Dec 21st, 2004, 01:27 AM
shit, this is going to require more than just normal B mode to tackle.

*super student mode activated*

da Tao, what a life you live and what friends you must have to even have stories to compare to your tale! I hope my thoughts/feelings/concerns will be of service to your further understanding of what it is you are looking for. At best, I hope you consider my words as being that of one who has lived life long enough to know some of it's intricacies and derived valid judgements from his own experiences, and at worst just the musings of an unwordly college boy.

You're lust for life as you call it, is both interesting and disturbing. What's interesting is that you acknowledge life's variety. there are those that live lives of pain and there are those that live lives of pleasure. There are those that believe themselves to be invincible and have no clear concept of the fragility of life, and there are those have seen death and know it well. It does not appear that you place arbitrary value judgements over which life is better lived, you seem to hold that each experience is just as valid as the next (please correct any misinterpretations and/or misconceptions i have and forgive my errors). And yet you are not satisified with your life.

What disturbs me is two things: 1. you do not live your life for yourself but rather as a race to achieve greater prestige over your "competitors" and 2. you're willingness, dare i even say desire, to place your life in jeopardy in the hopes of feeling alive.

now what disturbs me about these two points: point 1: is there a reason for this envy to compete? in reality what difference does it make who has the better stories? you crave life experiences and yet you are experiencing life in your own way. what is it that is missing from your life that drives you to seek it? (i know that you are not sure, but it's still good to ask)

point 2: to what extent will you go to seek the rush of being alive? what accomplishment will satiate your desires? obviously, you do not find your life satisfying why else would you be so willing to tempt fates? you argue that it was a historic event, that you wanted to be there totake part in history yet aren't we all in one shape or form a part of history. sure not all of our names will make the history books but it is unlikely yours would make it either. and yes it would be an interesting story to tell but to whom would it be truely relevant to? Only to certain groups of people, mainly Eastern Europeans and history buffs, would the historic significance be relevant. i feel you are using the historic significance as merely a front to validate your reckless excursion. Hmmm so i guess i should ask if your belief that taking part in a limited historically significant event is genuine, what makes being a part of history so valuable?

However, the danger and excitement can be communicated to almost any person. and you seem to feel that danger will offer your life something that it does not already have or cannot have without experiencing danger. this concerns me. you don't seem to worry too much about dying in your quest for living and i can't hold that against you. but what about killing? what happens when you place yourself in a situation where it's killed or be killed? i'm not against killing in self defense, but for you to needlessly place yourself in such a situation that would require self defense would be some what morally questionable (at least for me). i know killing someone is probably the last thing on your mind, but i fear you'll be entering a slippery slope if you do not cease this urge to feel alive or to have stories to tell. You are alive and you have stories to tell.

if it's interesting experiences you seek, i guess you should ask yourself what makes experiences interesting? you want to taste it all? how much of something will be enough for you? have you not already experienced sadness and pain? i'm worried that you've become desensitized to your life experiences and are seeking greater stimulation, but eventually you'll require more and more stimulation and where that goes i'm not sure. but living in the extreme is no better than living in moderation. and yet living in the extreme comes with the risk of losing oneself to it almost like a drug addiction.

i don't know perhaps i've totally misread your post. i feel that i relate to you on some level, and yet i can't begin to grasp your struggle. I feel no need to embrace danger (but perhaps my own brush with darkness/death has purged the desire), and would be content with a peaceful life. Right now the main motivational force that drives my life is total self-improvement; I want to try and be the best me i can possibly be. so what if my story is not interesting to others, makes no difference to me (altho if i ever were to enter the dating arena i do see my straight arrow lifestyle to be somewhat of a disadvantage. but then again i do have a tendency to try and make everything a disadvantage. i am an insecure fool).

For me life is meaningless so that we can find our own meaning for it. If i died now, the purpose i attributed toward my life would mean nothing because it does not go beyond me and i'm ok with that (perhaps later in my life i'll find another goal that goes beyond me). I'm not trying to say i dissapprove of your reasons for living (if i have interpreted it correctly), i am just worried about the consequences. and to a degree i do understand your desire to be a part of something of great. one of the reaosons i am a 44 is out of a desire to be a part of something greater than myself. I also understand your desire to want to test yourself (a point that i did not properly address and i apologize). but what is it you are trying to test? your ability to survive on your own?

i ask again that you forgive any misinterpretations on my part and for any rambling i did. i hope i was not too far off the mark in my thoughts and inquiries.

*super student mode deactivated*
damn talk about about a fucking mental exercise. hope some of that shit helps. : )

edit: and after skimming over this thread i guess i missed the main question for you or for anyone that cares to answer: what is a real life?

3line
Dec 21st, 2004, 01:57 AM
I just say you're nothing but a fetishizer of a foreign culture. Trying to find an impoverished "third worlder" in his unrefined state to give your own life meaning, perhaps to capture (‡ la Forster) that "intuition" supposedly lost in your world of technological modernity. Ukraine is your jungle, your ORIENT.

I have never been to a national protest, and definitely not one that approach the scale of a revolution. The Ukrainian people, braving cold temperatures, surrounding government buildings in peaceful protests. Getting no more than 2 hrs of sleep a night in makeshift tent cities, eating from open air soup kitchens with their orange banners and hobo stove for warmth. Quite romantic.

Hobo stoves are only romantic to those who have never been starved and freezing.

On the other hand, this adventure is to affirm to myself that I have both the will and the ability to exercise my will - even in unfamiliar settings. That was to be a test of my wit and resourcefulness. Like I said above, I better be able to reconcile my delusions/ego with my assets before other people share in my liabilities.

Another Westerner on a safari. Nothing to see here, folks.

Of course, stuff like this is very funny to note.:

Getting sidetracked a bit, it is also because I wanted to see Ukraine for itself, as the furthest east in europe as I have ever got, as part of the old Soviet Bloc... and as the origin of borsche soup and this food made out of pig fat. And even though the chance of picking up was small (the girls would definitely have more emotionaly kinship to protesting for the same cause - check out news articles on pregnancy test and marriages inside camp city) I was prepared for that possibility as well.

I wanna go to China! The birthplace of sweet and sour chicken and fortune cookies! :lol: :lol: :lol: And those women, man! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dialectic
Dec 21st, 2004, 03:13 AM
I'm gonna leave this up here because I know daTao wouldn't mind reading this and possibly responding.

In general, though, 3line, your judgment and tone of address are seriously warped and perverted by strong innate biases and anger, which undermine the legitimate points you do present.

daTao, I very much appreciate your thoughts here. I'll give the posts a more thorough read when I have some more time.

3line
Dec 21st, 2004, 05:20 AM
In general, though, 3line, your judgment and tone of address are seriously warped and perverted by strong innate biases and anger, which undermine the legitimate points you do present.
Which are? I wasn't aware that I was making any points that were calm, rational, and people-friendly.

da Tao
Dec 21st, 2004, 01:24 PM
da Tao, what a life you live and what friends you must have to even have stories to compare to your tale!
Thanks, B. I am very fortunate to know people with very diverse skill and experiences (saving someone from a suicide attempt, Wing-Chun master, punching out a robber, wit and intelligence of all kinds) and be able to call them as my friend. I try to honour them by bring my share to the table - it is like an alliance where members are diverse and strong, mutually supportive in times of need. It would be great indeed when the Omega Attractor realizes its full potential.
I hope my thoughts/feelings/concerns will be of service to your further understanding of what it is you are looking for. At best, I hope you consider my words as being that of one who has lived life long enough to know some of it's intricacies and derived valid judgements from his own experiences, and at worst just the musings of an unwordly college boy.
All new viewpoints are worth listening to, for at the very least it tells me something about you.

You're lust for life as you call it, is both interesting and disturbing. What's interesting is that you acknowledge life's variety. there are those that live lives of pain and there are those that live lives of pleasure. There are those that believe themselves to be invincible and have no clear concept of the fragility of life, and there are those have seen death and know it well.

Disturbing is good. It tells us that we are outside our comfort zone and must somehow reconcile what it is that is disturbing us into our system. As for death, I do not know it as well as I would like. Not that I wish it upon just anyone to satisfy my morbid curiousity, for there is enough of that around as it is. In recent years I have four people that is aquaintance and above that met death. Mother's father to liver cancer, Father's mother's father to old age, an army squadmate who joined the Marines and died in a firefight in Iraq, and a guy from my university and coop placement who hung himself for yet-unknown reasons. None of it hit that close to home, I can only imagine what it is they thought about last.

It does not appear that you place arbitrary value judgements over which life is better lived, you seem to hold that each experience is just as valid as the next (please correct any misinterpretations and/or misconceptions i have and forgive my errors). And yet you are not satisified with your life.

In terms of humanity as a whole, the collection of life experience is "just-is". You are correct that I don't place arbitrary value judgement over what I consider as facts. But rather, judgement over lives EMERGES from my own value system and agenda - which direct my thoughts and actions.

Therefore each experience is valid by the simple virtue that it happened / is happening. I think it is a grave mistake to apply value judgements until the experience has been processed unadulterated. To do so is to be prejudiced and one would miss out on any intrinsic beauty and genius.

When it comes to my own life however, the collection of experience is a function of choice and you run into recursion problems because you can control what is a fact. Therefore one has to fall back to the position of value system that developed somewhere along the way. And this value system is telling me that I need to do more. (And this is another thread altogether possibly.)

What disturbs me is two things: 1. you do not live your life for yourself but rather as a race to achieve greater prestige over your "competitors" and 2. you're willingness, dare i even say desire, to place your life in jeopardy in the hopes of feeling alive.

now what disturbs me about these two points: point 1: is there a reason for this envy to compete? in reality what difference does it make who has the better stories? you crave life experiences and yet you are experiencing life in your own way. what is it that is missing from your life that drives you to seek it? (i know that you are not sure, but it's still good to ask)

The answer for point 1 takes the multiple forms. Firstly, my envy is the strongest out of the seven deadly sins. As I hinted in the first post, people have their experiences, and I have mine. Because it is not possible to have the exact same thing, I must have something comparable to offset my desire for their experience - else let envy get the better of me. Second, I do not like to be punked. If someone is acting like an ass rubbing it all over my face over something, I'd like to have a heavy enough gauntlet to give a proper bitch-slap. (Having said this, I try to be humble.)

As a sidenote, better experiences/stories are just a good toolkit to have around - usually in competition over jobs, resources and mates. So yes, in reality it does make a difference.

I have to think about the what is missing in my life question some more.

point 2: to what extent will you go to seek the rush of being alive? what accomplishment will satiate your desires? obviously, you do not find your life satisfying why else would you be so willing to tempt fates?

Life is a game, B. With three notable points: A) The rules and gameboard are unclear and subject to change. B) You and others have to LIVE by the consequences. C) There is a clear way to decide who wins and how. Most games are over when you clean up the pieces, put away the dice or turn off the console. Most games behave very predictably. Life, I hope you will agree, is different.

Having said that, I will generally not gamble with any capital that aren't mine. I THINK I will keep on going until I find a niche, an equilibrium that works on most if not all levels. It has to be sustainable. (Travelling around the world "hotspots" on savings is not sustainable.) It has to be challenging to myself, fits in with my values and compatible with society. I will stop this vague idea here.

you argue that it was a historic event, that you wanted to be there totake part in history yet aren't we all in one shape or form a part of history.

I heard two school of thought on this... one is that you need that special Einstein or that special Hitler for specific events. The other is that if not them then it would have been someone else anyways.

I tend to the former. Not so much because of innate gifts but because their life circumstances shaped their perception and decisions. And since I tend to the former school, I would counter your line with "It is to the degree of which we are dispensible."

sure not all of our names will make the history books but it is unlikely yours would make it either. and yes it would be an interesting story to tell but to whom would it be truely relevant to? Only to certain groups of people, mainly Eastern Europeans and history buffs, would the historic significance be relevant. i feel you are using the historic significance as merely a front to validate your reckless excursion. Hmmm so i guess i should ask if your belief that taking part in a limited historically significant event is genuine, what makes being a part of history so valuable?

To Whom it is relevant remains to be seen. And I would be first to admit that since I am not omniscient it would be difficult to see what impact it will have. But in terms of geopolitics and governance alone it has the potential to reverberate worldwide. (And this already set a new tone for US-Russia relation in the coming years.) I think this alone takes it beyond the exclusive realm of Eastern Europeans and history buffs.

As for reckless, I again defer you to my assessment on why Kiev represented an acceptable risk. (Namely, the probability of loss is very low.)

However, the danger and excitement can be communicated to almost any person. and you seem to feel that danger will offer your life something that it does not already have or cannot have without experiencing danger. this concerns me.

Very astute indeed! Yes, I believe a close call will personally help me realize what my priorities and motivate me to achieve them. (In fact, one of more amazing person I have met had leukemia when he was 4.) One of my strategies to guard against human weakness - is to put myself in situations where I would not want to turn back and hence accomplish what I sought to do in the first place. I have yet to get to the point where I can act on my will without fail. And I think this is the focus that danger can offer - besides, it is warming to see which friends sends what email to express their concerns. Perhaps, if I spend more time here, I can get to my goal.
you don't seem to worry too much about dying in your quest for living and i can't hold that against you.
A bunch of quotes come to mind, but I won't bore you with them. Just that if you starts with less chips then you like, you tend to bet more.

but what about killing? what happens when you place yourself in a situation where it's killed or be killed? i'm not against killing in self defense, but for you to needlessly place yourself in such a situation that would require self defense would be some what morally questionable (at least for me).

I am afraid "Needless" is one of those floating goalposts that I don't like to discuss - so I am sorry to disappoint you on that point.

As for killing. I have reconciled with that possibility - or else I would not have joined the reserves. (You might not want to take everything having to do with any one thing, but you have to be prepared to deal with everything that comes with it.) Basically, you have to realize that the other guy is pretty much like you and me - he/she has a past, dreams, hopes, fears, needs, friends and family - that under different circumstances could be a great friend. Once you recognize this personal aspect, the rest is about whether your value system find the death justifible.

i know killing someone is probably the last thing on your mind, but i fear you'll be entering a slippery slope if you do not cease this urge to feel alive or to have stories to tell. You are alive and you have stories to tell.

You are quite right, that risk always exists - hence it is important to have a counterbalance. A value system tells me which level of involvement is consistent with my agenda. To bring up another morbid example... During a nazi interrogation of suspected French partisans, they soaked the sanitary napkin in kerosene and set it alight. Now that's just fucked up. Now thus far I cannot arrive at any justifications why I'd want to participate in something like that. Nor do I want anyone to experience that because it drains from the productivity pool. It simply isn't helpful to anyone.

if it's interesting experiences you seek, i guess you should ask yourself what makes experiences interesting? you want to taste it all? how much of something will be enough for you?

At some point a single consciousness cannot reconcile the magnitude of experiences presented to it. That is when the most salient ones colour your preception of everything else. For example, losing your wife and daughter probably overshadows the rest of your life. Therefore it will be enough when I begin to lose perspective. This is a strength-of-character matter. I do not know the absolute answer yet.

have you not already experienced sadness and pain?
Funny, you know how some people say that it is time to go when you have done your job on Earth, or when those mystical threads are cut? If you force me to give a straight answer to the question of pre-ordained lifespan, I will have to say that I believe one can die once they have reached their allotment of pain and suffering.

i'm worried that you've become desensitized to your life experiences and are seeking greater stimulation, but eventually you'll require more and more stimulation and where that goes i'm not sure. but living in the extreme is no better than living in moderation. and yet living in the extreme comes with the risk of losing oneself to it almost like a drug addiction.
I need to think more about this.

i don't know perhaps i've totally misread your post. i feel that i relate to you on some level, and yet i can't begin to grasp your struggle. I feel no need to embrace danger (but perhaps my own brush with darkness/death has purged the desire), and would be content with a peaceful life.
Nah man, I think you have done quite well! Thank you. As for peace, oh yes I would love that, more than anything actually, but I know that unless I have done my part to deserve that peace - anything I get would be a false peace and can be taken away.
Right now the main motivational force that drives my life is total self-improvement; I want to try and be the best me i can possibly be. so what if my story is not interesting to others, makes no difference to me (altho if i ever were to enter the dating arena i do see my straight arrow lifestyle to be somewhat of a disadvantage. but then again i do have a tendency to try and make everything a disadvantage. i am an insecure fool).
Not as insecure as you might think :), if you can stand by your statement that "what if my story is not interesting to others, makes no difference to me". Besides, straight arrows have its strengths, especially to girls who want to settle down.
For me life is meaningless so that we can find our own meaning for it. If i died now, the purpose i attributed toward my life would mean nothing because it does not go beyond me and i'm ok with that (perhaps later in my life i'll find another goal that goes beyond me). I'm not trying to say i dissapprove of your reasons for living (if i have interpreted it correctly), i am just worried about the consequences. and to a degree i do understand your desire to be a part of something of great. one of the reaosons i am a 44 is out of a desire to be a part of something greater than myself. I also understand your desire to want to test yourself (a point that i did not properly address and i apologize). but what is it you are trying to test? your ability to survive on your own?

I know you are not disapproving, and in fact you can/should take pride/solace in the matter you conducted this conversation - I enjoyed it. (I don't like to say sentences like this though because it can be condescending.)

i ask again that you forgive any misinterpretations on my part and for any rambling i did. i hope i was not too far off the mark in my thoughts and inquiries.

It's all cool, yo. There are a few things here that deserve an entire thread to itself, so I am going to wait and see if others can help to condense it first. I should hit 3line post sometime soon.

Cheers!

BTW, it is very possible that I contradicted myself somewhere along the way - that means there is something I need to sort out.

da Tao
Dec 21st, 2004, 02:01 PM
I just say you're nothing but a fetishizer of a foreign culture. Trying to find an impoverished "third worlder" in his unrefined state to give your own life meaning, perhaps to capture (‡ la Forster) that "intuition" supposedly lost in your world of technological modernity. Ukraine is your jungle, your ORIENT.

Two factors you haven't considered are proximity of access and oppotunity costs. I was mentioning the entire range of human experiences, and that includes being Bill Gates or George Bush. What is it like to sit on a gold mine that is MS-DOS? or What is like to be told that US has just been attacked?

I am not discounting those experiences, but those are much more accessible due to media and the same cultural backdrop. Therefore I can get to them "later" and through other means. It is not everyday where I have the opportunity to be based in Europe to make the trip.

As for my own culture, the same concepts apply, since I am part of the culture, I have much more access through my family, and by the virtue that I people will open up to me a bit more.

Though you might have a point somewhere with that giving life meaning idea - if you care to elaborate.

Hobo stoves are only romantic to those who have never been starved and freezing.

Very likely to be true, but I accept the possibility that I could be wrong - and I will reassess that notion to fit. I am not going to whine about it, it is part of the contract. Without this acceptance, how can one learn anything?


On the other hand, this adventure is to affirm to myself that I have both the will and the ability to exercise my will - even in unfamiliar settings. That was to be a test of my wit and resourcefulness. Like I said above, I better be able to reconcile my delusions/ego with my assets before other people share in my liabilities.
Another Westerner on a safari. Nothing to see here, folks.

I would like to know how someone with a similar mindset, engaging in Outward Bounds or the Eco-challenge can also be labelled by you as "Another Westerner on a safari". You seem to imply that I look down on them as savages or something.

I wanna go to China! The birthplace of sweet and sour chicken and fortune cookies! :lol: :lol: :lol: And those women, man! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Actually, I thought this parody was a riot!

I might be missing something, anyhow, let me know.

Slan! (Irish for bye)

xian
Dec 21st, 2004, 08:37 PM
I really enjoyed your line of thinking. The only thing worse than taking risks and gaining both amazing life experiences and amazing hardships is living a worthless self-indulgent life. Certainly there are self-indulgent folks who going through the motions of helping others, but I can tell that this is not the case in your situation given your writings.

I'm sorry that this didn't work out for you, but the thing about seekers is there's always new amazing opportunities that they discover.

Remember, everything good in the world was built by folks willing to risk their necks for new experience. How do you think our folks got to the States in the first place?

Justin
Dec 31st, 2004, 09:37 PM
Wow this was a great read. Glad I decided to check more of this section out.