I have to sit through my Laotian barber blabbing onto me about how she knows all these other hapas who are sooo pretty, about how the Asian mom had the husband with the most beautiful blue eyes. About how my fat ass would be a model in Asia because they are hapa obsessed (that’s for the tip I believe, LOL).

I mean, we might as well be in the time where Eugenics was practiced in the US. Lets sterilize Asian men and White women and allow Asian women and White men to screw each other for perfect kids >

The position that I’m seeing taken against me is, “I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, and you can’t stop me, but you can’t do whatever you want, whenever you want, and I’M THE BIGGEST VICTIM.”

Because when you say that, you justify everything you said before by saying everyone you criticize is in a higher position of privilege than you, so they can’t say shit back. When the world is actually much more complicated and nuanced than that.

1. Advocates on the internet (blogging, participating in Forums, etc.) really are only speaking on their own behalf. They might voice an opinion that a great majority of people agree upon, but at the end of the day, they only need to be held accountable to themselves.

2. Advocates in an Asian American advocacy organization, like the Organization for Chinese Americans (OCA) are suppose to represent all Chinese Americans. So they have to be accountable to all Chinese Americans, members and non-members alike. In that context, D can write about job requirements. By the way, I’m not picking on OCA per se. It’s just an example.

I don’t think there should be a big disjoint between being an advocate and an blogger/forum participant. The internet is a good way to get information to a large group of people who wouldn’t care enough to attend a rally. It’s also a good way to get people to know about real events. And increasingly, the internet is becoming reality - just look at all the contributions to the Obama campaign that have come through websites. We could probably use a little more discussion about advocacy here.

It sort of strikes a bell within me because it’s somewhat similar to when comedians will point out one member of a race and say ‘hey, look, he/she thinks it’s funny, it’s totally okay!(lol o’donnell mebbe?)’ I do understand that the situations are different, and that obviously you can’t speak for the Asian female population in it’s entirety(seeing as your post is based entirely on that premise…), it just seemed a bit similar.

Oh well, it’s not really the same thing, although it still hits me as sort of strange.

Also, did you ever actually clarify ‘AF/WM’ when talking about race advocacy and IR relationships? ‘Cuz if you didn’t, I don’t see what there is to discuss.

And I can probably anticipate a bunch of posts debunking this, but I’m done, I can’t think anymore and I can’t remember the rest of what I was planning to write anyway.